| Dress – Anthropologie // Booties – Vince Camuto // Chevron Necklace – Lisa Leonard |
It’s been a while since I’ve shared a “fashion post” with you all.
Mostly because I was beginning to get wrapped up in comments and compliments.
I began letting feeling my self identity become lost in your voice.
I would wait impatiently each week for people to tell me if I…
…did it right
…had the right shoes
…wore a cute outfit
Then I would sit back and use hashtags like #fashionblogger
What a mindless joke.
You would think I would enjoy posting what i wore pics.
After all I’ve been working my ass off.
I should be revleing in those 7inches and now 5lbs lost.
Yet, with each post I would only see the imperfections.
The places I was still trying to loose.
….my arms still need work
…my legs
…my calves
I got to a place where I cared more about what you thought of me
than what I thought of me
or my husband thought of how I looked or how I dressed.
Nothing is good enough.
No compliment helps me see past what I haven’t achieved
or still have yet to achieve.
So the last few weeks I took a break.
What a breathe of fresh air!
It made me realize that these posts are more than pretending to be a pretencious fashion blogger.
Something I will never be, nor claim to be,
but I want to still post occasionally.
why?
Because these posts have represent a new reminder for me.
They represent how damn hard I’ve worked to loose those 7inches and albs
They show that if I can do it, seriously anyone can.
Just read my journey if you don’t believe me.
They remind me that it’s ok to be confident and excited about
…getting out of my sweats
…taking a shower
…getting dolled up
just for the sole purpose of feeling good about me
and who I am.
So, I may not post outfit pics every week, but I will keep posting them.
But with a renewed outlook,
that this is another wonderful way for me to document a new journey.
A journey that represents learning how to love myself for who I am.
To stop trying to change all the time.
To trying to see the good, instead of focusing on what could be.
Do you ever feel that way?
Where you’ve lost sight of what really matters?
How do you get back on track?
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Leelee says
Confidence is one of the best accessories out there. For real.
Carly says
Aw, I think it’s ok to feel proud of yourself…..just make sure you’re feeling positive and this isn’t making you more concerned or stressed!
Carly
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Claire @ A Little Claireification says
Fantastic post, Alissa! It is so easy to get consumed with what others think about us rather than just enjoying what we have accomplished – even if we aren’t fashion models! I’ll never be a fashion blogger but it’s wonderful to express our own individual style without feeling like “it’s just not good enough”.
Thanks for sharing this and the great reminder!
xoxo
the Blah Blah Blahger says
This is good stuff. I like where your head is at.
But also…you’re pretty and look great. 😉
Amber says
Love love this so much. As a “semi” fashion blogger it’s quite easy to get caught up in the comments and the compliments. I find that I have to step back and focus on other aspects of style when I feel myself getting into that zone. And I too only seem to notice flaws and imperfections and if I see others posts then I kind of feel like mine aren’t good enough??? Crazy town party of one.
So I’ve had to really think about WHY I do the outfit posts and what I hope to get out of them and remember where & how it all started.
I personally think for you, it’s a great way to document your ever evolving style and your weightless journey. You can see how far you’ve come and give props to that!!
Kac says
this post is beautiful, like you, Alissa.
Alissa Circle says
thank you so much sweet friend! xo
Vicky says
What a great post. And dress. 🙂 I know just what you are feeling. I critiqued my photos and how they aren’t as clear or pop or professional looking or what have you and it is nutty. It loses why I started doing this stuff each week.
I come to your site each week because I like you. What your wearing is always fun, pretty, inspiring, etc but I just like to see what you are talking about or are up to.
Come link up with me at Whatcha Wearing Wednesday. http://www.themummychronicles.com.
Tonya @ Love of Family & Home says
Very cute! I’ve been swooning over that gold chevron necklace from Lisa Leonard for so long!!! Must have it!!
Cindy says
Thanks for sharing that. Sometimes we get too caught up in blogging that we forget to love our selves. You look great btw. I see no imperfections in you. 😀 Love your dress!
Ania says
I love that dress and you look amazing. You should be proud of the hard work you invested into yourself and improving yourself, your looks and your health. The pretty packaging is just a bonus.