[one] this week i’m weighing in on the mommy wars. do we even think this fighting is benefiting anyone?
[two] yes i’m totally aware of the white fuzz on my boob + the sticker on my dress. #kids
[three] yes i would’ve removed both the fuzz + sticker if I had seen it before 9:06pm
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caroline @ sew caroline says
totally 100% agree with you. i really don’t get it. obviously i’m not a mom, but i don’t go around arguing with people because they don’t like the same kind of toothpaste as me…? to each her own! love you, friend!
Dalayna Dillon says
I am not a mom, but one observation I have made (not for or against moms working, just an observation) is the working parents know more about quality vs. quantity. They learn and utilize quality time with their kids, really building on their parent relationship with them while those who stay home don’t get that quality time and spend a lot of time with their kids seeing them frustrated. Just an observation.
Barefoot Hippie Girl says
I think that everyone needs to chill. We are answerable to God, not each other. We all have different personalities, strengths, gifts.
Natalia says
I haven’t heard anything about these ‘mommy wars’ but I have learned along the way that it doesn’t matter what other people chose to do. It doesn’t affect me and my family at all, so I do my best to leave it all a lone. Sure, I have preferences on each side, but I also understand that every person’s life experiences are different and we will never know them all. I try to understand that even if my opinion differs, I don’t know that person’s full story and I don’t have a right to judge.
Oh and about being a working mom – everyone likes to quote Proverbs 31 for a ‘perfect woman/wife’ Well she worked! “she considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” vs16 is just one of them, the whole chapter is full of how she is working. So that’s for all the working mommas- you’re just being a Proverbs 31 woman!
Ko says
Amen momma! It’s amazing how easily we can get are feathers ruffled. You are a breath of fresh air! Keep sharing the truth!
Katie Shannon says
Or why can’t we just embrace each other?!!!
Love like Jesus.
I hate the mommy wars. I hate it. I just moms to support each other, because being a mom no matter if you are working or staying home is TOUGH.
I think it’s great that you touched on this!
Erin @ Isaboo Designs says
Oh Gosh…don’t even get me started! This drives me bonkers to no end! I have no idea why women feel it is ok to judge each other so harshly as mothers. When we lived in Florida, I knew many women who were really into natural and home childbirthing and were so down on anyone who had a baby in a hospital. I don’t really care where anyone has their baby as long as everyone is healthy and happy! We are all so different so it astonishes me that some mothers think their way is the only or best way and make other women feel inferior for making different choices. We are supposed to support and encourage one another! Not tear each other down.
Chelsea says
You spoke straight to my heart this morning, Miss Alissa! And I’m so happy you and I share the same opinion on all of this. Lets just agree to disagree, people. There’s no reason we should be tearing each other down! I’m a mother, a nursing student and a blogger and sometimes things get really, really busy, but that doesn’t mean I don’t make time in my day to be the best mom I can be 🙂 Thanks for putting it so eloquently! Happy Friday!
Kristen says
I definitely subscribe to the live-and-let-live mentality. I stay home, and I want to stay home, but I know that I won’t do that forever. (I just blogged about it this week!) But that’s good for me, and it might not be good for everyone else, so while I have my opinions about a lot of these topics, I don’t express them because it’s not really any of my business what other people do in their own family. It’s such a personal thing.
Debbie Hallock says
I have raised two children and was blessed to be able to be home with them most of the time but I also worked on and off – in and out of the home at times. These type of debates have probably been going on since the beginning of time but with social media are more prevalent. I remember the work/non working, home schooling/not home schooling and is your child ready for kindergarten (these are just the start in the realm of parenthood) debates were huge and that was over 20 years ago. Here is what I know – when our hearts seek after God’s best for us we will shine where He has put us, we are all unique and our lives are not to look like each others for we are here to glorify Him, we are called to edify each other (as you said build each other up), it is good to have an opinion and speak but Speak in Love. One last thing when people become so adamant in their way is the only way they often speak from a place of insecurity. I guess I got on my own soapbox. PS – I didn’t notice the fuzz or sticker but your comments made me laugh. Of course I didn’t have my glasses on and I am getting grandma eyes. Thanks for your wise message. It was great having coffee with you today.
Andrea Worley says
oh this is such a near & dear topic to me. i worked for over two years when my first was born and now just recently am able to stay home with both my kids. it’s such a joy and blessing. but when i was working full time outside the home it was really hard, people judge you, people say things that are just mean, and it’s hard to connect. i have such a strong desire to connect with other moms and encourage them. and you’re so right let’s spend our energy and efforts on encouraging one another whether you’re working out of the home, or a stay at home mom at the end of the day you’re just a mom trying to do you’re best for your family. thanks for sharing you’re heart today.
Amy {The Mombot} says
This is such a sad battle. I am on both sides of the spectrum too, and know how hard it can be from each side. Being a mom is hard enough without us waging war on each other! The best support you can get on rough days is from another mom, so when we take the opportunity to uplift each other and turn it into degrading one another, it is such a shame. I was so excited to visit the Strong Moms Empower suite at Blissdom and see that women are speaking out against it, because it’s such an important topic! I was totally going to blog about it next week too. I guess it’s on a lot of people’s minds. Thanks for being so candid about it!
Kate says
I completely agree with you!!! I think Mommy Wars is the stupidest thing ever. There are a million ways to raise a child right. I see it all too common online with the breastfeeding rants. I’m a postpartum nurse and I LOVE breastfeeding. I love doing it, I love supporting others doing it. But I also love supporting a woman’s choice on how she wishes to feed her baby. I see women torn apart online for choosing to give formula. It’s sad. I see women being belittled for following their pediatricians advice to supplement for medical reasons. It’s just awful, and part of the reason I’ve started blogging again. To find my voice against mommy wars and encourage all mothers!