I’m sorry that I didn’t join you for coffee this morning. Can I make it up to you with a fresh pot of hot coffee this afternoon?
I meant to post last night, but I just needed a break.
I have been feeling emotionally drained.
Like tears for no reason, and hyper sensitive emotionally drained.
It didn’t help that my mom left last night after a really fun visit and my kids, especially Katelyn, took her needing to leave so hard.
I mean, she begged to go, for Grandma to stay and each time the tears just rolled bigger and stronger down her little cheeks.
By the time I braved the drive home and putting the kids to bed, I needed a time out just to allow my own emotions to process.
But I’m feeling much better today and really wanted to kick up my feet and enjoy a cup of coffee with my friends.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my love languages. I’m positive one of my strongest love languages is Words of Affirmation. So much so that I constantly have worries and feelings of anxiety consuming me.
I obsess over:
if people like me
what people thing of me
what if i hurt someones feelings
what if my feelings get hurt
am I being a good wife a good mom
are my kids getting enough attention
why is it that words that my 4 year old speak in anger affect me to the core
This past week I even had someone who doesn’t know me attack my character.
And I’m totally one to sit and obsess and rehash each situation and worry about how I can change the person’s mind and make it all better, but I’m realizing that I can’t.
I can’t be everything to everyone all the time.
Then yesterday I was reading from the new She Reads Truth Bible study and of course it’s all on worry.
And it hit me.
The only words of affirmation I need are the ones that come from my Heavenly Father. I need to stop focusing on what other’s are saying or doing and allowing those distractions to keep me from the plans he has for my life, or the relationships He is blessing me with. I think far too often, I let all these worries completely cloud my judgment. They hold me captive and then they leave room for Satan’s lies to come in and become strongholds.
Because I’m realizing this need for affirmation is so prevalent in my life, I also realize that I need to be spending time in my Bible and doing my daily devotions so that my focus can stay on God and allow him to speak those words of affirmation into my life. I’m so grateful for She Reads Truth. Knowing that I’m surrounded by so many other amazing women who are reading these words of encouragement alongside me each day helps me to stand strong against these strongholds.
I know this doesn’t mean that I won’t still need those words of affirmation in my life, I know they are an innate part of my love language, I just need to learn not to let the need for them become overpowering in my life.
Do you ever feel this way? Do you struggle with needing words of affirmation to make it through your day, only to have one negative comment totally consume you?
If you’re joining me for coffee today please:
1. link directly to your post.
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3. meet someone else for coffee today